Let the Music Play

Music is one of the most important considerations for your wedding. It will set the tone of your event from start to finish, and it's an imprint of who you and your beloved are as a couple. On the other hand, you don't want to pull your hair out making the music selections either. Listen to the words (if there are any), but most importantly, pay attention to how a certain song makes you feel. It it feels good, it's probably the right song. If you don't already have a large selection of music, you can check out some sample options at the Wedding Wire song page.

Here's how the folks at Ensemble Elan suggest making your picks:


A GUIDE TO CHOOSING YOUR WEDDING MUSIC

Q: What song absolutely melts your heart?
A: That's your Processional.

Q: What song could you hear over and over without tiring of it?
A: That could be for your attendants.

Q: What song honors your family?
A: That's the "Seating of the Mothers"

Q: What song reminds you of when you fell in love?
A: That's your First Dance.

Planning for your reception dance music is a lot less controlled. Pick a great band or DJ that fits your style. It's important that they understand the atmosphere you want to create. If there are special songs the band will need to learn, make sure you inform them in writing at least 4 months before the wedding. If some of your picks are not performance-friendly, the band could play those on CD during their breaks.

After you've given your band or DJ a list of DO NOT PLAY songs and a very short list of songs you absolutely want to hear, trust them to keep your guests entertained. You will still need someone to communicate the order and timing of the toasts, special dances and bouquet toss, etc. (Hopefully, a wedding planner). But the entertainers should be clear on what you want to hear months ahead of the wedding.